It’s common to feel intensely concerned about somebody who you care about is struggling and you can feel like you are solely responsible for their mental wellbeing. You may feel powerless, confused or even frustrated. These are often normal reactions. You might be worried they may harm themselves but feel you cannot tell anyone as that would break their trust.
It might help to read more about the illness, a good resource is https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/helping-someone-else/ which outlines common mental health problems.
The most important help you can give to be present and to listen. It can help to encourage your friend to go out but try not to put pressure on them, Try and be patient- getting better can take some time. Everybody has different experiences of recovery, what helps and what hinders; remember everybody is at a different stage of coping and there is no ‘one size’ fits all approach.
When supporting a friend or family member who is struggling with their mental health it’s important to make sure you look after yourself and remember your own priorities. Try and find someone to confide how you’re feeling in, perhaps University staff or a trusted family member. Be realistic with yourself about your own limits
It’s really important to remember that if you not comfortable then you must be honest. You could seek advice from your Warden or sub-warden if you live in Halls or a personal tutor.
If you have immediate concerns that your friend is not safe or is about to harm themselves dial 999 or go to the nearest A&E department (LRI- Leicester) or the Urgent Care Centre (Epinal Way, Loughborough)
